Finding Tranquility In 2020

Hopefully last week’s blog on How To Get Along With Yourself paves the way to finding balance in your life. Before we get buried in Christmas activities, let’s get a jump on the benefits and bungles of New Year’s resolutions. Probably, many of you have attempted good…

How To Get Along With Yourself

Have you noticed things about yourself after Thanksgiving mingling that you like or dislike? An ENTP said:  Ever since I was a kid, I've always been different from other girls. I never played with baby dolls, never had interest in princesses, and especially never wore dresses. Even through my middle…

Satisfying Thanks-Living

“My husband, never thanks me for what I do!” Mona said tearfully, “But, He’s full of thanks for any one else who helps him with his computer or TV, gives a gift, card or makes a pie. I’ve waited on Andy hand and foot for over 50 years,…

The Joys of Connecting

A response to Joni’s last week's comment lends itself to another side of the importance of connecting.—“Some people place bars on their hearts to protect themselves, unfortunately the person (s) they try to keep out could be their greatest asset in helping to remove those bars on their…

Continuing the Not Connected Discussion 2:

Read again Joni’s comment highlighting an important communication skill-area. Small, but significant. ”Great article! I have to wonder if "Pete" was connecting with her more than she would like to admit! In dealing with a high spirited, (challenging to say the least), child I found that a lot of…

Not Connected?

During a phone call with a professional male friend regarding a project we were sharing, said, “By the way, in a small group I was in last night one of the ladies said, ‘Pete, you don’t connect’. That has bothered me no end. What did she mean by that?…

Healing Dysfunctional Relationships

Did you ever try to grow African Violets or any house plant? They need very little care, but without water, dead leaves and spent flowers removed and occasional plant food they will disappoint the gardener. As I outline in chapter 3 of my recent book, regular respectful communication is absolutely…

Drastic Measures

A Complete Opposite Resorts to Drastic Measures Summary: (wife-ENFJ: husband-ISTP) Several years ago a wife came for counseling after she had left her alcoholic husband saying “When you quit drinking, I’ll return”.  He was so shocked by her actions and promised to quit drinking. He begged her to come…

An article in my absence

Here is an interesting article from The Atlantic that I thought my readers would enjoy. Research shows that practically every dimension of life happiness is influenced by the quality of one’s marriage, while divorce is the second most stressful life event one can ever experience. Yet nearly half of…

Wordless Messages

Meaningful Wordless Messages To wrap up our dialogue about elements of communication: body language, tone and content  let’s review some obvious—well used wordless expressions which save many words and time. Send me some of your favorite nice expressions that I can add to my list. Warm hand shake.…