Continuing the Not Connected Discussion 2:

Read again Joni’s comment highlighting an important communication skill-area. Small, but significant. ”Great article! I have to wonder if "Pete" was connecting with her more than she would like to admit! In dealing with a high spirited, (challenging to say the least), child I found that a lot of…

Not Connected?

During a phone call with a professional male friend regarding a project we were sharing, said, “By the way, in a small group I was in last night one of the ladies said, ‘Pete, you don’t connect’. That has bothered me no end. What did she mean by that?…

Healing Dysfunctional Relationships

Did you ever try to grow African Violets or any house plant? They need very little care, but without water, dead leaves and spent flowers removed and occasional plant food they will disappoint the gardener. As I outline in chapter 3 of my recent book, regular respectful communication is absolutely…

Drastic Measures

A Complete Opposite Resorts to Drastic Measures Summary: (wife-ENFJ: husband-ISTP) Several years ago a wife came for counseling after she had left her alcoholic husband saying “When you quit drinking, I’ll return”.  He was so shocked by her actions and promised to quit drinking. He begged her to come…

An article in my absence

Here is an interesting article from The Atlantic that I thought my readers would enjoy. Research shows that practically every dimension of life happiness is influenced by the quality of one’s marriage, while divorce is the second most stressful life event one can ever experience. Yet nearly half of…

Wordless Messages

Meaningful Wordless Messages To wrap up our dialogue about elements of communication: body language, tone and content  let’s review some obvious—well used wordless expressions which save many words and time. Send me some of your favorite nice expressions that I can add to my list. Warm hand shake.…

Dramatic Body Language

Two comments from An Extrovert’s Listening Insights piece have inspired the following Blog. 1. DRAMATIC BODY LANGUAGE “Unfortunately, there are times when my body language is about 80% and I can't hide it! I used to teach this information on communication, but it was really good to think about…

An Extrovert's Listening Insights

"It's funny, I always felt that I was a good listener but then I realized how much I was missing when I stopped talking and really began to listen. Having cancer has taught me many things and this is one of them. During my treatments I often did not have…

Noise Control Insights:

A blog reader recently commented: ”I want to help my Extroverted friends to understand a little-understood reality regarding Introverts and noise. Since there’s no doubt that I’m an Introvert, It is often assumed that I never like any noise. However, I am perfectly fine with noise that I…

Handling Conversation Blurts

HANDLING CONVERSATION ”BLURTS" “I'd like to avoid people who are just off in another planet,” writes Wendy.  “I want to understand them but sometimes I just can't which makes me uncomfortable. They seem to be rare. But I just can't feel where they are coming from. I feel I need…