Dominant Preferences Causing Resentments

Sylvia’s response to last week’s blog: “Resilient Personalities made me think... when a loved one dies, like a husband, I can see how the surviving spouse often looks to fill the holes left by the dominant personality type in others, but might not necessarily express they are doing…

Personality Resilience --Preference-switching

Observing preference-switching in times of stress has grabbed my counseling and MBTI (Myers-Briggs Temperament Indicator) attention. But before I continue, I asked a blog-reader if she thought it would be a good idea to introduce my blog this week by beginning with a P. S. finishing the snake story. She…

Identity & Purpose--Sibs 6-21-20

Identity and purpose are funny things. Annie wrote:” I am doing well and am resilient since my hubby died, but I don’t feel like I have much purpose or things to look forward to.” How we think of ourselves, becoming satisfied with who we are, along with meaningful purpose…

Anger—Friend or Foe?

Responses to last week’s blog about the success of written expressions has inspired the focus on the pros and cons of anger especially involving healing from losses. Just listening and watching a two-year-old resorting to stomping feet, shedding tears, wailing and running away when things don’t go their…

Benefiting from Old-fashioned Home Therapy

Solving problems is a common thread in the tapestry of life. When Dad deserted us in 1947, counseling was not suggested. We were merely told, “You’ll get over it after a while.”  We just coped with our loss. All losses, from death, loss of home, possessions, health, job, pets,…

Evaluating the Gravity of Brief Statements

The harsh door knocker startled me from reading. The neighbor who was mowing the lawn stood at the door and announced “Water is running”. Oh, my! I scrambled outside. I had turned several watering hoses on earlier in the day and failed to turn one off. Three words had catapulted…

Making Room for Mom and Half-sibs

Making room for blending families often resembles managing the pandemic. The difficulty and destruction certainly demand astute attention, matching many descriptions: reconcile, settle, resolve, to bring into harmony, to become friendly again, peace, smooth, meet to understand. Blending demands mixing appreciation for various personalities, understanding and forgiveness. The end result…

THE GERMINATION OF PURPOSE

Have you ever wondered when your purpose (s) took root?  Purpose as per dictionary: goal, aim, a determination, resolution, desired result. Did you set goals? Were you aware of the importance of purpose? I wasn’t. Purpose deserves another look. Although I have always been an extrovert with an in-born…

DISASTERS EVOLVING INTO GROWTH AND EXPANDED PURPOSES

Everyone is quite aware that the world-wide Covid-19 Virus pandemic has twisted and disrupted myriad singles’ and family’s lifestyle and livelihood on top of the normal medical, financial and personal losses. There’s a bright side. Recovery often offers hidden benefits. A friend who was forced to find another…

Memory Markers Contribute to Healing

Grieving is a word that unfortunately carries with it a fearful concept of “How can I avoid that?” Admittedly, the promise of having to face a period of mourning and/or grieving do sound somewhat morbid to me.  But as I research the experts on death and dying and those…