Positive Assumptions That Trigger Resistance

Everyone struggles with keeping positive attitudes functional in light of others’ silent expectations or well-meaning assumptions.  If a gift that may have incurred hours of dedicated work, money saved up or some sacrifice doesn’t coincide with the receiver’s need or desire, but instead meets with silence, a sigh…

Values vs Personality-Type in Acquiring Smooth Relationships

I was intrigued with an email which lends itself nicely for the completion of understanding preferences. Hello Ruth. I always enjoy reading your explanations. And I always get new understandings. Thank you. I wondered what your thoughts might be on the importance of Values in a relationship. Things like religious…

Influences Blossom into Personal Joy and Enrichment

We all have stories of life-changing influences such as graduations, marriage, children, jobs, careers, even firings that happen early on. However, one of my most-significant influences was spawned forty some years after most of my big decisions had already occurred via a phone call from my brother, Mac, a Chaplain…

Lifestyle: Structure-vs-Spontaneity--Work First or Play First?

Before launching into our final preference exploration, I am printing one of the still-pondering emails received from a very good friend in response to Sensing and Intuitive to help those in the same boat. Ruth, I am inconclusive as to whether I am sensing dominant or intuitive dominant.... I found…

Relating Information Gathering—Sensing and Intuition

Bedtime conversation: “Jim, are you asleep?” “No”. “What are you thinking about?” “Thinking about going to sleep.”  “I have so much running through my mind; what went on today; what’s on tap for tomorrow and my clients’ problems”. “Ruthie, just shut your mind off and go to sleep.” We…

Reflecting on Rigorous 2020 and Embracing an Energized 2021

Merry Christmas and a blessed New Year to my known and unknown blog readers.  I trust you are taking good notes about rigorous Covid-19 2020 for your grandchildren and great-grandchildren to read. Hopefully, future Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s will never duplicate the Pandemic disruptions of 2020. This is…

Appreciating Feeler Heart-Logic Contributions

Heart-Logic Decision Preference, our focus this week, balances last week’s Thinking-Head Logic Decision-making Preference. The MBTI classification follows below with mine in parentheses. 60% percent of women/girls prefer Feeling Heart-Logic Decision-making. 40% percent (a high minority) of men/boys--prefer Feeling Heart-Logic Decision-making. Everyone is gifted with all the…

Courteous Compromise Between Feelers and Thinkers

Responses to the Honesty blog revealed an overall request for less-accusatory communication between Thinker/Feeler relationships. Opposites attract but understanding and appreciating each other is another story requiring simple and workable solutions. As we focus on the adjacent decision-making preferences of Temperament--Thinking & Feeling in MBTI talk, keep in mind…